Flower Essences for self esteem
Picture a time you felt really good about yourself. It might have been at graduation, being asked on a date, or simply after knitting a nice jumper! Life felt pretty good at that moment no doubt, oneís spirits were buoyant, and one was filled with a sense of satisfaction and self worth. One looks back to such moments and cherishes them, recalling the wonderful feelings of wellbeing, contentment and confidence experienced at that time. Furthermore, we often wish we could readily summon up such positive feelings about oneself and feel more often the inner happiness and self confidence experienced back then.
Fortunately, it is within all of us to create happiness and peace in ourselves. We can harness our innate, powerful healing abilities and over time, with love and commitment, create new lives for ourselves. During our healing process, to assist and support us, we can also utilize many wonderful healing tools such as meditation, counseling, Reiki etc. Another invaluable approach to healing is the use of flower essences (remedies).
Flower essences are all natural remedies that are gaining in popularity due to their effectiveness, purity, ease of use (and economical viability). The healing properties of flower essences are derived from the life-force, vibration, of the flowers used. Flower remedies address negative emotions/states (and sometimes physical ailments.) By dissolving and alleviating negative emotions, they help us experience greater general health.
There are a number of flower essences worldwide that can be used to generally to promote self esteem - these can be used regardless of the cause of low self esteem. One such essence is Columbine (Yellow) (Aguilegia chrysantha*) which helps one feel and express oneís Divine beauty and assists us to appreciate, nurture, love and accept ourselves.** Another valuable essence is Cliff Rose (Cowania mexicana) which awakens us to love and empower ourselves and removes doubts and fears.
Cloudberry (Rubus chamaemorus) can be taken to replace low self esteem with an awareness of one's inner value - it helps one recognise the light of purity deep within oneself. Furthermore, Lace Flower (Tiarella trifoliate) strengthens one's sense of self-worth and helps one realise his or her unique contribution to the whole.
Another essence which may be helpful is Holy Thorn (Cratageus sp) as it awakens us to the presence of love in our hearts, for ourselves and others. Also useful for those with low self esteem is Christ Thorn (Euphorbia milii) which addresses lack of self-worth, self-neglect, depression, subjugation of the self, and promotes self love.
If oneís lack of self esteem is significant or severe, one could (also) try Daffodil (Narcissus pseudonarcissus) which deals with self-criticism and self-hatred.
When we are not feeling good about ourselves or feel inadequate, we can look to others to affirm our worth. When there is the need for such validation from others, one could try Sunbonnet (Diascia barberae) which is especially helpful when the need for external approval and love creates the situation of co-dependency. This essence facilitates an honoring of the Self, and the ability to provide love for oneself from within, rather than seek love externally.
In a similar vein, when lacking confidence in ourselves and our decisions and abilities, we can tend to seek advise and guidance from others. i.e. externally. The flower essence Cerato (Ceratostigma villmottiana) can be helpful here, being for those who lack the courage of their conviction, lack faith in their capabilities and hence look to others for decisions and action.
Self criticism is often experienced by those who feel they ďarenít good enoughĒ. At such times, Jasmin (Jasmine officinalis) would be suitable as it is applicable for those who put themselves down and have a negative image of themselves. Interestingly also, Elder (Sambucus nigra) helps overcome feelings of imperfection and is recommended for those who arenít comfortable with their looks. Furthermore, the essence Pretty Face (Triteleia ixioides), also promotes self-acceptance in relation to oneís personal appearance.
Often low self esteem manifests as timidity or shyness. Some remedies which can be of assistance here are: Mallow (Malva sylvestris) which helps shy people develop confidence socially; Ixia (Ixia polystachya) for lack of confidence, timidity, self deprecation and introversion; Box (Buxus sempervirens), an essence for those who are shy, often weak-willed and who let themselves be dominated by those around them - this essence confers strength, courage and tenacity to free oneself from the domination of others; Buttercup (Ranunculus acris), for those who are reserved, shy, doubt and under-estimate themselves, and Violet (Viola odorata) ideal for those who are profoundly shy, reserved, aloof and fear being submerged in groups
With a number of individuals however, insecurity can manifest as both shyness and arrogance, with the person swinging between these emotions. Such individuals could benefit from Sunflower (Helianthus annuus) which promotes a balanced sense of individually, and is recommended for those with a distorted sense of self, low self esteem or vanity, especially if a poor relation to oneís father or masculine aspect of self is a/the cause of this behaviour. Similarly, Oxalis (Oxalis incarnate) also provides assistance, as it addresses the situation of polarities of inferiority and self-importance, lack of self-worth, arrogance or overbearing behaviour.
Dr Bach, an English physician, in the 20th century brought flower essences to the general attention of people living in the western world. Amongst his range of well know flower essences, the following may be beneficial for promoting self confidence: Larch (Larix deciduas) which promotes faith and optimism in oneself and abilities. Furthermore, when self doubt is a problem, Bachís Gentian (Gentiana amarelle) is beneficial, especially when lack of faith is accompanied by discouragement or depression
When we donít feel good about ourselves, we can deny or deprive ourselves of things, feeling we donít deserve them. For those who give yet do not allow themselves to receive, Plum (Prunus Americana) essence can be of assistance. It helps clears the past and brings a willingness to receive.
Low self esteem often stems from one or more specific factors or experiences. For example, a person repeatedly left in relationships may develop deep patterns of unworthiness, inadequacy. Or a young child whoís experienced a number of unloving foster homes may wonder if he in fact deserves no better. Whilst it is beyond the scope of this article to cover all the circumstances that contribute to/ cause low self esteem, we will touch on a couple of general ones and a few flower essences that can be of assistance in such circumstances.
Guilt and shame can create a sense of unworthiness and inferiority. Some important essences that deal with guilt are: Hyssop (Hyssopus officinalis), for releasing feelings of guilt when one is convinced of having done wrong; Pine (Pinus sylvestris) for those who blame themselves, and suffer much from the faults they attach to themselves and Wild Azalea (Melastoma polyanthum) which helps one view oneself without judgment.
Abuse, be it mental, emotional or physical, especially if repeated, can cause not only trauma but a sense of unworthiness - the sufferer can believe they deserved such treatment. There are a great many essences to assist those who have suffered abuse, including the following which can help individuals develop or recover their sense of worth and honor: Northern Lady's Slipper (Cypripedium passerinum) provides nurturing energy for the healing of core traumas and wounds held deeply in the body, allowing one's being to be touched and healed by infinite gentleness; Tundra Twayblade (Listea cordata) opens the heart to allow unconditional love complete access to areas of the body that are in need of healing.
Be the cause of low self esteem obvious, as, for example, in the cases of rejection or abuse, or more subtle, a disruptive emotional pattern is nonetheless operating in the individual concerned: their pattern of unworthiness, inadequacy is preventing them feeling positive and wonderful about themselves. By recognizing and healing such patterns we can increasingly feel better about ourselves. Flower essences are one way to help us heal and experience ourselves as the beautiful, lovable child of the Universe that we, in essence, truly are!
* nb. some plants species have a number of varieties e.g. in the Willow family one can find included the varieties Salix gooddingii and Salix bebbiana. With regards to flower essences, itís important to understand the qualities of the flowers belonging to the different varieties can have slightly different properties. Hence when ordering an essence based on its description, its important to check the botanical (latin) name of the flower essence is that which you are after.
** Furthermore, many flower essences have multi- healing qualities. For the purposes of this article, only the relevant qualities are stated, please understand
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